The Nature of Fear and how it affects us

A friend asked me recently......

> How can we stay strong and fearless to help others open themselves up?

I think we grow strong and fearless by opening *ourselves* up. Obvious, right? :)

We do that by *experiencing* that which we fear thus becoming more aware and confident about ourselves. It's also important to realise that all fear is false and you can deal with whatever it is. Now you don't have to necessarily 'like' what it is you are fearing, but just to know you can do whatever it is or overcome you fears is powerful in itself.

Fear is an interesting one which I could write a book about. I have realised that when you fear something it has nothing to do with the thing/act itself. It is scary beause you make it so, you are actually projecting that fear onto the said object/action. e.g "i am afraid of mice"...."Mice" are not scary.

ALSO and perhaps most importantly , what you fear may well happen, if you don't fear it, the chances are it won't. Ever noticed that? I believe it's because you get what you wish for, or more investigatively, you get what you focus on.
Say somebody you are speaking to hates mice. What you believe you will achieve, and you hate to be wrong about something right? They are so scared that the mouse will jump on them that they will actually put yourself in positions where it can. Why, to prove that themselves right.